Often when we are ready for a new relationship, or have begun a new relationship we dream about our exes. This causes many people distress as, even though it is only a dream, you can feel guilty and almost disloyal to your new partner. • However, dreams deal with emotions and memories and any new relationship exposes you to emotional vulnerability. This will trigger your dreaming mind to conjure up examples of when you felt similarly vulnerable which will tend to involve your exes. Explore issues of insecurity.